In the course of my day job I don’t usually have to do much writing. So it was with some trepidation I accepted the request to write an article for the BBC News website about a meeting I had attended as a cameraman.
Here’s the finished product, it’s nothing special but for me it is quite a big deal and hopefully wont be the last.
“I witness men hitting ladies all the time,” says Kgomotso. “Especially when they are both drunk.”
“I once had an argument with my girlfriend,” he admits, “and I grabbed her and slapped her.”
Kgmotoso Mathekga, 30, is speaking frankly during a gathering of men in a narrow street in a Johannesburg informal settlement known as Organic Market.
It’s a maze of corrugated metal shacks and unpaved roads, close to Alexandra township.
“Now I feel pain,” Kgomotso continues. “We broke up and I no longer see my child. I feel like I’ve contributed to the problems in South Africa, instead of being the gentleman that I know I am.’
At a nearby tavern, a group of men have pulled up chairs in a circle outside in the dust.
In the middle stands Itumeleng Stephen Tamaga, known locally in Organic Market as Bra Steve.
He raises his fist and shouts, “We are men!”
The group clap and cheer, a few sip on bottled beer.
“Listen guys,” says Bra Steve, “We must stand together to fight against Gender Based Violence and femicide.”
Bra Steve is the local organiser of Father A Nation – a Non-profit that focuses on using positive male role models to help end violence against women and to try to fix broken neighbourhoods.
The group’s meeting this week follows a period in which the issue of femicide and violence against women has dominated the headlines in South Africa, and sparked outrage around the world.
The discovery of a cluster of women’s bodies – 12 over three months – in the city of Ekurhuleni near Johannesburg has reignited questions about the scale of what many people see as being a crisis of violence against women.
South Africa’s president Cyril Ramaphosa made a televised address to the nation, admitting his government had not done enough and unveiling a raft of emergency measures he hopes can make women feel safer.
The country has one of the highest murder rates in the world, with 5,427 people murdered between April and June this year alone.
In that period, according to the South African Human Rights Commission, 569 women were killed – an average of six a day – and 1,052 others survived attempted murder.
A report in 2022 by the Human Sciences Research Council found that over 35 percent of South African women experienced physical or sexual violence – many from their own intimate partners.
For Bra Steve, part of the solution to the crisis is helping men to understand the issue and take responsibility for their actions.
“We are a lost generation,” he says. “We must restore dignity to the men around here.”
Amongst the group of men outside the tavern is Zizipho Mtwesi, the project co-ordinator of Father A Nation.
Reflecting on recent weeks, he says more should be done.
The latest measures announced by Mr Rampahosa – including better street lighting and a review of unsolved cases – are too little, he says, and too late.
“When I think about all of these recent murders in Johannesburg, I get angry, why do we have to wait for this to happen for us to act?”
He looks around and gestures at the meeting. “We are trying to reach men before things like these murders happen again.”
Craig Wilkinson is the founder of Father A Nation. “We get men to talk, to process their feelings,” he explains.
“And as they do, this healing takes place. And the second phase is teaching and training positive masculinity.
“We ultimately hope that this will eliminate the scourge of Gender Based Violence.”
He stands up, moving into the centre of the group, calling out to the men.
“You as a man are a powerful force for good,” he tells them. “You choose what kind of man you want to be. Women need to be safe.”
Father A Nation operates across South Africa, teaching healthy masculinity and running training programmes across dozens of schools and colleges.
Mystery still surrounds the spate of murders which has sparked South Africa’s latest moment of soul-searching about the safety of its women.
Police have not ruled potential links between some of the Ekurhuleni deaths but have not said explicitly they are hunting a serial killer. Some suspects for some of the crimes have appeared in court.
But the spate of deaths has sparked new concerns – and in Organic Market some women are more fearful than ever.
Outside a nearby shack Linkie listens with interest as she cleans clothes in a large metal bucket.
“We are not safe when we are outside our place,” she says.
“We are afraid when we see a car behind us when we walk.
“We feel afraid. We feel scared. What if this guy’s going to kidnap me or do something to me?”
It’s a feeling shared by many women here. In the local hair salon, sporting a mane of thick pink braids, is Providence Maseko.
She comes to the door to speak Bra Steve.
“Safety here is very bad,” she says, “maybe you are the serial killer – how do I know who to trust?:
Bra Steve laughs. “We must talk about these things,” he urges. “Come to our meetings and we can learn to trust each other.”
Providence tells me that she now takes an e-hailing taxi everywhere in the hope that it is safer.
Back at the tavern, today’s men’s meeting is wrapping up.
“As we try to stop gender-based violence,” says Zizipho, “each and every man needs to know that they need to play a part in this.
“And if they wouldn’t allow these things to happen to their own daughters or own mothers, they mustn’t allow it to be done to someone else’s daughter, which is their wives or their girlfriends.”
Kgomotso is impressed with what he’s heard.
“I would love them to keep on practising what we have learned, because we no longer have role models.
“Our fathers and our uncles, they are there in prison. We must now become role models and help make this country better.”
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